The first time it happened was devastating and the second time, I lost it with him, and yet…I’m still waiting for him to do the right thing. I’m crazy about him and I don’t want to feel like I’ve wasted a year – I’m 38, I don’t have time to waste! You’ve brought a product under the impression that it is and does as described and have discovered that it doesn’t and are the disgruntled customer who wants what she paid for – the man you met is not on offer.
I would never have got involved with him if I’d known that he was separated and I certainly wouldn’t have stayed if I’d known it was going to be like this. When I try to get something concrete from him, he tells me to stop pressuring him and that “Six years is a long time you know Renee! But I don’t want to be treated like this either and I’ve been reading your site and am worried I’m with a Mr Unavailable. The man you met a year ago, was footless and carefree on a night out.
To say I was shocked and disappointed wouldn’t even cover it, but I was already falling for him and he said he’d been afraid to tell me in case I turned him down.
Your relationship with him started out being based on a lie and he himself didn’t believe in how over his marriage was because he didn’t see fit to tell you until you were already emotionally invested – but you were invested in what you thought was a single man.It’s draining and demeaning to wait for someone to choose.If he’s going to leave and divorce her, he’ll leave and divorce her.It’s not a little omission – it’s a big one that fundamentally affected the ability for your relationship to progress.The trouble with this deception is that by not being upfront he removed the right for you to decide what you 1) want to be involved in and 2) what you’re comfortable with.